Shopped from 2pm-10.30pm
DP & Aeon
with my family *winks*

manage to watched Narnia with my bro-s in between
well.. I think Narnia is better than Tron
my opinion saje la.. =p

can feel the pain in my foot now
=.=|||

But didn't bought much
was actually shopping for mum's stuff most of the time =p

DAD and BRO, they're REALLY PATIENT !
Imagine, guys shopping with girls but they're not really shopping for their stuffs..
some guys will just say : " you're shopping for girl's stuff not mine.. go shop yourself~ "

Right girls ?
xD

really sad that I found a nice shoe and it was really cheap but
only left size 8 =.= other size smaller than 8..
ALL SOLD OUT !!
RM 17.95 only le..
where can u find such cheap yet Nice shoe ?
T____ T

k-e-n-a-p-a dah tak de size aku~ !!!???

haih..
I' m sad.

=D

Don't you think that
this is
COOL ?

=D

THE
Vintage_style

I HAVE TOO MUCH TIME TO KILL..
and my bro is saying that I'm LAME~
I'm sorry...
xD

What to do ?

Everyone seems to have found their job for this looong~ holiday
But not for me =(
I'm rotting at home la !

have lots of plan to do actually, but now the mood is all gone..
only have those mood DURING MY EXAMS =p
haih..

am thinking how should I spend my holidays wisely =)
Is not really easy to find a good job though


Some of my friends just went up to Genting for work today
Can really save up lots of money if you're working there
Since you have nothing to do, so you'll have to
take OT most of the time = earning extra pay $$
The cold weather there, guarantee that you'll become snow WHITE after some time :D


Dad was asking me to work there too
But..
Imagine ~ ppl smoking, and you'll have to stuck inside there with them ?
Kinda torturing if you're not working at the NON-SMOKING casino.

and..

I
MISS
SCHOOLING DAYS
BADLY !!!

T__T

The Five Languages of Apology

We are experts at wronging each other, but when it comes to setting things right, we all could use some help. New York Times best-selling author Gary Chapman teams with counselor Jennifer Thomas in an eye-opening study of one of the most important yet least understood pillars of human relationships: the apology. Surprisingly, saying “I’m sorry,” isn’t primarily a matter of will—it’s a matter of how.

So,what is your apology language ?
click here
for a simple test to check out yours today
=)

My results
10 = Expressing Regret
10 = Accept Responsibility


So,try to get my apology from this 2 ways and
well..
perhaps it's easier for me to forgive you
xD

Thus, the explanation to your answers..

• Expressing Regret

  “Expressing Regret” is the Apology Language that zeroes in on emotional hurt. It is an admission of guilt and shame for causing pain to another person. For those who listen for “Expressing Regret” apologies, a simple “I’m sorry” is all they look for. There is no need for explanation or “pay back” provided the apology has truly come from the heart. “Expressing Regret” is a powerful Apology Language because it gets right to the point. It doesn’t make excuses or attempt to deflect blame. Above all, “Expressing Regret” takes ownership of the wrong. For that reason, “Expressing Regret” is understood as a sincere commitment to repair and rebuild the relationship. The “Expressing Regret” Apology Language speaks most clearly when the person offering the apology reflects sincerity not only verbally, but also through body language. Unflinching eye contact and a gentle, but firm touch are two ways that body language can underscore sincerity.

• Accept Responsibility

  It is very difficult for some people to admit that they’re wrong. It makes them doubt their self-worth, and no one likes to be portrayed as a failure. However, as adults, we must all admit that we are sinners and that we will make mistakes. We are going to make poor decisions that hurt our mates, and we are going to have to admit that we were wrong. We have to accept responsibility for our own failures. For many individuals, all they want is to hear the words, “I am wrong.” If the apology neglects accepting responsibility for their actions, many partners will not feel as though the apology was meaningful and sincere. Many partners need to learn how to overcome their ego, the desire to not be viewed as a failure, and simply admit that their actions were wrong. For a mate who speaks this apology language, if an apology does not admit fault, it is not worth hearing. Being sincere in your apology means allowing yourself to be weak, and admitting that you make mistakes. Though this may be hard to do for some people, it makes a world of a difference to your partner who speaks this language.

• Make Restitution

  In our society, many people believe that wrong acts demand justice. The one who commits the crime should pay for their wrongdoing. A mate who speaks this love language feels the same way towards apologies. They believe that in order to be sincere, the person who is apologizing should justify their actions. The mate who’s been hurt simply wants to hear that their mate still loves them.

  There are many effective ways to demonstrate sincerity in an apology. Each mate must learn the other’s love language in order to complete the act of restitution. Though some mates may feel a though all is forgotten with a bouquet of flowers, that may not necessarily work for all mates. Every mate should uncover what their partner’s main love language is (Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Acts of Service, Physical Touch, and Receiving Gifts) and use that specific language in order to make restitutions in the most effective way.

  For a mate whose primary apology language is making restitutions, no matter how often you say “I’m sorry”, or “I was wrong”, your mate will never find the apology sincere. You must show strong efforts for making amends. A genuine apology will be accompanied by the assurance that you still love your mate 
and have a desire to right the wrong-doings committed.

• Genuinely Repent

  For some individuals, repentance is the convincing factor in an apology. Some mates will doubt the sincerity of an apology if it is not accompanied by their partner’s desire to modify their behavior to avoid 
the situation in the future.

  It’s important to remember that all true repentance begins in the heart. A mate must feel poorly for hurting their loved one, and rely on God’s help in order to truly change. Admitting you are wrong creates vulnerability. It allows your mate to get a glimpse of your heart. The glimpse of true self is assurance that the apology was sincere.

  One important aspect of genuinely repenting is verbalizing your desire to change. Your mate cannot read your mind. Though you may be trying to change inside, if you do not verbalize your desire to change to your mate, most likely they will still be hurt.

  Many people have problems with repenting when they do not feel as though their actions were morally wrong. However, in a healthy relationship, we often make changes that have nothing to do with morality and everything to do with building a harmonious marriage.

  It is also important to make a dedicated plan for change. Often apologies involving repentance fail because the person never set up steps of action to help ensure success. A person must first set goals for their change. After you create realistic goals, then you can start implementing a plan to change. Taking baby steps towards repentance instead of insisting on changing all at once will increase your chances of successfully changing your ways.

  It is important to remember that change is hard. Constructive change does not mean we will immediately be successful. There will be highs and lows on the road to change. You must remember that with God’s help, anyone can change their ways if they are truly and genuinely ready to repent.

• Request Forgiveness

  In some relationships, a mate wants to hear their partner physically ask for forgiveness. They want assurance that their mate recognizes the need for forgiveness. By asking forgiveness for their actions, a partner is really asking their mate to still love them. Requesting forgiveness assures your mate that you want to see the relationship fully restored. It also proves to your mate that you are sincerely sorry for what you’ve done. It shows that you realize you’ve done something wrong. Requesting forgiveness also shows that you are willing to put the future of the relationship in the hands of the offended mate. You are leaving the final decision up to your partner – to forgive or not forgive.

  Requesting forgiveness is not easy. It often leaves one vulnerable to the fear of rejection. Along with the fear of rejection is the fear of failing. Many people have a hard time seeking forgiveness because it means admitting that you have failed. The only way to overcome this fear is to recognize that it is very common amongst mankind. The commonality makes it okay to be a failure. It allows a stubborn mate to apologize to their partner and become a healthy individual.

  Ultimately, it’s important to remember that there is a difference between asking for forgiveness and DEMANDING forgiveness. When we demand forgiveness, we tend to forget the nature of forgiveness. Forgiveness is a choice the offended party is supposed to make. Demanding forgiveness takes away the sincerity of asking for it.

  Remember not to treat forgiveness lightly. It is something to be cherished and appreciated. The act of forgiveness is hard on both ends – for the person who’s asking and for the person who’s accepting.

Is better for you to
share this post
and let others
have a better understanding of your
Apology language !

untitled_ ?=S

saw ppl posted this on FB
"jing dian" wor..
hhmmnn..
well. Just share some here la..

=]

这个世界上最残忍的一句话，
不是对不起，也不是我恨你，
而是，
我们再也回不去。

就是这样再简单不过的一句话，
生生的将两个原本亲密的人隔为疏离。

爱总是会使我们有太多期许：
希望长久，希望不会分别，希望占有和实现。

而最终只是觉得有些许厌倦，不知道该往哪里去。
爱情就是这样，
有些人会慢慢遗落在岁月的风尘里，
哭过，
笑过，
吵过，
闹过，
再恋恋不舍
也都只是
曾经。



女人好比梨，外甜内酸。
吃梨的人不知道梨的心是酸的，因为吃到最后就把心扔了，
所以男人从来不懂女人的心。

男人就好比洋葱，想要看到男人的心就需要一层一层去剥！
但在剥的过程中你会不断流泪，
剥到最后你才知道
洋葱
是
没心的。



爱情里最忌讳的是：
两人都幻想着彼此的未来，却也总惦记着对方的过去。



明明说着看开了，
放下了，
每次却总是不自觉的想起那个给与温暖的人。

每每又总是在微笑沉醉时看到了现实，
想到了伤痛，
然后，
冷的感觉再也暖和不起来了 。
如此反复，
心，
终于累了，
现实就是这样。

我曾经醉过，
却又最终醒来，
我正在行走，
却
找不到
方向。



我想给你幸福，却走不进你的世界 。
我想用我的全世界
来换取一张通往你的世界的入场券，
不过，
那只不过是我的一厢情愿而已。

我的世界，你不在乎；
你的世界，我被驱逐。
我真的喜欢你，闭上眼，
以为我能忘记，
但流下的眼泪，
却没有骗到自己。



时间会告诉你一切真相。
有些事情，要等到你渐渐清醒了，
才明白它是个错误；
有些东西，
要等到你真正放下了，
才知道它的
沉重。


男人对女人的伤害，不一定是他爱上了别人，
而是他在她有所期待的时候
让她失望，
在她脆弱的时候
没有给她
应有的安慰。



如果彼此出现早一点，也许就不会和另一个人十指紧扣。
又或者
相遇的再晚一点，晚到两个人在各自的爱情经历中慢慢地学会了
包容与体谅，
善待和妥协，
也许走到一起的时候，就不会那么轻易的放弃，任性地转身，放走了爱情。

但时间不会回头，
爱情
岂能“如果”？




如 果不幸福,如果不快乐,那就放手吧；
如果舍不得,如果放不下,那就痛苦吧。


有些人不经意出现,意外的给你惊喜。
曾以为他是你生命中的神,可以拯救心灵的干渴，
其实错了,
有些人
注定只是人生里
匆匆行走
的过客。



你最爱的，往往没有选择你；
最爱你的，往往不是你最爱的；
而最长久的，偏偏不是你最爱也不是最爱你的，
只是
在最适合的时间
出现的那个人。



维系一段感情的，不是坦白，
而是考虑到对方的感受，
有所保留。



让你哭到撕心裂肺的那个人，是你最爱的人；
让你笑到没心没肺的那个人，是最爱你的人。

So..

How true is this for you ?

:)